Healthy Communication

It's not what you say, it's how you say it.
Are you nicer to others than to yourself?
Are you in your best company when alone?

What is Healthy Private Speaking?

Henry Ford is quoted as saying," Whether you believe you can or can't, you're right."

Private Speaking is about our inner dialogue. The non-stop voices of beliefs, and disbelief's. Of truth and nonsense.
Of inane chatter, reruns, if only', sorry's, wishes, control, hopes, revenge, day dreams, old lovers, lost friends, goals, gains, got too, musts, should, ought, its so easy to stop and just listen to the commentators.

BUT

Don't believe everything 'it' says.

Healthy communication is about recognizing those voices, the advisers, counsellors, creators of well wishes, highest values, Truth Sayers, the compassionate forgivers and patient purveyors of attention and appreciation.

Healthy communication is a self-rewarding loop of positive feedback.

Healthy communication is an affirmation of goals wishes and desires.

Healthy communication is agenda free, memorable and fun to share.

Cultivate your healthy communication by being aware of what you are telling yourself. Here is one of my favorite exercises:

How do I know what I am saying till I see what i am writing:

1. Start with 10 words you value
2. Then make those words into ten sentences.
3. Then make those ten sentences into ten paragraphs
4. Then divide the paragraphs into INTRO-BODY-CLOSING
5. NOW READ AND LISTEN TO WHAT YOU WROTE.
6. Put a title on your work.
7. Read it for seven days in a row, without a commentator
8. Alter or change any 'ill-willed', uncertain, doubtful, vengeful communication.
9. Reread for another seven day without a commentator.
10. Post a blog. The world needs Healthy Communicationers

To find ways of silencing the commentator, contact Gary C Smith Public Speaking and Training.

Namaste

Gary